Can I run gpt-neox-20b on a Mac with 64 GB?

Yes, just

Its published weights (41.3 GB) fit in the 48.0 GB a Mac with 64 GB can use, with room for ≈ 2K tokens of context.

hf download EleutherAI/gpt-neox-20b

Files and context on Mac with 64 GB

Each file of gpt-neox-20b (and of GGUF versions the site has analyzed), and how much context fits next to it, with the context cache in 16-bit or 8-bit.

gpt-neox-20b on other hardware

Popular models that run on Mac with 64 GB

Assumes 75% of the Mac's memory is usable (macOS's default limit for the GPU; it can be raised) and at least 4K tokens of context for one conversation, with the context cache in 16-bit unless noted. Fits leaves at least 20% of that memory for context; Tight leaves less.